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Kitchen Revamp

Kitchen Revamp

Our Home: kitchen
Our Home: kitchen
Old yucky kitchen.

Kitchen
Kitchen
New lovely kitchen.

So my Mom left this morning after being here for the past two weeks. She came out after Michael’s death to help me with the paperwork and emotional fallout. My family’s method of dealing with stress is different than most others. Where others cry and hold each other, we tend to do a project, like replacing curtains, ripping up the kitchen floor and redoing the cupboards (more photos can be found on my Flickr account.)

My Uncle Stan also came over for a day (he drove all the way from Indiana!) to offer his emotional support. In other words, he replaced (and installed) my dishwasher and range hood while simultaneously watching my sick kids with my Mom so that Caswallon and I could attend the funeral.

My family completes me.

Michael Greg Stewart

Michael Greg Stewart

StarBear's Pony Party

Michael Greg Stewart
April 21, 1983 – February 20, 2013.

My ex-husband and the father of my children died from depression a few days ago. Beyond this post I do not wish to talk about the death publicly. In spite of everything, he was still one of my close friends, and we had a peaceful and amiable divorce. There will be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper and a full on in next Wednesday’s paper. (Edit: Michael’s Obituary)

I wanted to post this since I am seeking people who may have met Michael since we divorced this past year. If you knew him and would like to attend the funeral, which will be Saturday, March 2nd, you can contact me through Facebook (Kira Stewart-Watkins) for details, or I can email you through the comments on this post if you wish.

I hope… I hope that Michael has found the peace he sought in life. I appreciate your prayers while we go through this difficult time.

Yule 2012

Yule 2012

Yule 2012

Yule 2012My father and his wife have stayed with us for 6 days this past week and it was so great. It has been 4 1/2 years since I have seen him and I had never met her. Maria is such a wonderful and warm person and my Dad is as great as ever. Last time Dad was here, SpaceFox was barely a couple months old and StarBear had not been born yet. So with 4 1/2 years to catch up on with the grandkids, and it is probably unnecessary to point out, but the kids were completely spoiled and loved every last second of it. Dad and Maria left to visit family in Mexico yesterday.

The only hitch in the week is that we were way sick. Caswallon and I ended up having to go to urgent care on the third day, we both have bacterial bronchitis and I have walking pneumonia. The kids needed to go to the pediatrician too and them both needed antibiotics as well. SpaceFox was especially sick so Caswallon stayed home with him a couple times (they made it through the first Halo together in their sick time) so he could recover best. The extra time relaxing at home allowed to extra talking and getting to know each other though, so a hidden blessing.

Maria saw a substantial amount of snow for the time time and made a snowman with help from StarBear. We also gave her her first cold to take home with her, since you know, we are generous like that.

Yule 2012
Snow!

Yule 2012
Grandma and Grandpa Heath stopped by to drop off some presents and hang out for awhile. SpaceRox was so sick this day he didn’t even want to open his presents from them.

Yule 2012
Caswallon and SpaceFox starting the huge Lego project.

Yule 2012
Feeding the goat at Riverfront Park.

We celebrate Winter Solstice, so Dad and Maria were able to be here for that, though we celebrated a day late due to sickness. Both kids are practically rolling in new stuff. We received a Kinect and Kinect game from my family who lives across the country and those have been high in the ranking of the current favorites toys. That and the huge lego set SpaceFox got and the My Little Pony castle StarBear recieved. I have a ton of pictures from that, as well as the whole visit.

I hope your holidays have been as wonderful as ours so far.

Ornaments

Ornaments

Ornaments

The kids wanted to make Solstice gifts for their preschool teachers and the city bus driver we see in the morning. So we made salt dough ornaments and last night painted them.

Ornaments

And added glitter, can’t forget the glitter.

Ornaments

Looooooooots of glitter.

A couple of my friends call glitter the herpe of the craft world because it gets everywhere, whether you want it to or not. Now to break three-year-old StarBear of the habit of asking for herpes because she thinks it is a synonym for glitter. Whoops!

It was so awesome watching SpaceFox and StarBear give them out today. Pretty much every adult we run into on a regular basis from home to school in the morning got one. The bus driver, their teachers, assistant teachers, the cook, the front desk secretary, the site coordinators for their daycare, the bus driver home…

So cute. So proud of my kids for coming up with the idea in the first place too. I am so blessed.

cutting a tree

cutting a tree

Getting a Tree
And here we go with a new/old tradition for our family. old because I grew up having a cut living tree in our home during the holidays. New because when I was married (so for the past 8 Christmases till now) we had a variety of fake or dwarf potted trees, so this one is new for the kids. With all the chaos of this past year , I have found comfort in old family traditions. So out we went this past Friday to Carver Farms to picked and cut our tree, with help from a pair of grandparents and an aunt!

cutting a tree cutting a tree

SpaceFox quickly found the saddest little Charlie Brown tree he could and StarBear found the perfect-to-her completely dead tree that she adored. So a little debate was required as to the qualifications of a Christmas tree (though honestly I would have gotten all three if I could because their tree choices were so decrepit) and a seven foot spruce was settled upon.

Tree Cutting

Confession: the constant freezing rain caused our decision to be not quite as anal as our natures’ generally demand.

While a couple men shook and bailed our tree for us, we were treated to hot cider and cocoa and a delicious ham and bean soup. In spite of the rain it was incredibly fun. Next year though we will need to make sure to go on a Saturday since they only do hayrides on weekends (not that the freezing rain would have made me incredibly up for one.)

Loving this tradition. Now to finish getting it decorated so I can share the final product.

I need to find tinsel.

reasons I love to bike #4: food

reasons I love to bike #4: food

out with my sonNot grocery shopping day to day food, though I do our weekly shopping on my bike as well, but rather all that junky food most people seem to fret and fuss over eating (due to calories or whatever.) I pretty much never worry about treats like that now that I bike all the time.

Granted, “treats” in our home are usually something like one of my whole-wheat honey pumpkin muffins, nitrate-free hot dogs or a steaming cup of mulled cider but sometimes it is eating out. This past weekend was one such time. I took SpaceFox (my four-year-old son) downtown to get him newer clothes for preschool (which starts in less then a week, yikes!) and we got Ben and Jerry’s (a strawberry single scoop waffle cone for him and a regular Chocolate Therapy milkshake for me) and then a caramel apple rolled in mini M&Ms at Riverpark Square (which we brought home to share) and then a pair of IZZE sparkling juices and some Annie’s organic fruit snacks from Main Market.

And do I feel any dietary guilt about any of that, after pulling my four-year-old 12+ miles in his trailer? Heck no! The grade on the hill home (river valley, woo!) is so steep I had to get off my bike and push the bike and trailer up it for part of the distance (SpaceFox walked beside me “helping”, it was very cute.)

On a side note, this all also means I’ll probably never have one of those perfectly muscled and trimmed marathon woman bodies, but I’m okay with that. Awesome food splurges are well worth the trade off to me.

What is your favorite treat?

reasons I bike #3: to stay in love

reasons I bike #3: to stay in love

Lovers bicycleObviously the key to a loving relationship is not bike ownership, nor am I saying you going to save your marriage with a pair of bikes. As a divorced mother, I know that a lot of factors go into a successful relationship beyond biking.

That said, in my current relationship, Caswallon and I are both avid cyclists, to the point that we currently chose to live car free. Our passion for biking ultimately has brought us closer together.

With only our bikes and public transport for our day to day needs, everything in life requires just a little more planning, which in turn requires more communication and patience between the two of us, both important skills to master in any relationship. Biking forces us to slow down, which in the frantic world of balancing our home and work and college and raising kids, is a blessing. Beyond that, when we bike together, we work together and are free to talk and stop as we need or desire… as well as get side tracked with out mutual love of exploration (we both “suffer” from a rather hefty amount of wanderlust.)

Besides I think Rayya and Catalyst (our bikes) make a dashing pair (chained to a pole? outside Donut Parade? Anyhow….) Together for the long haul! Wouldn’t want to break up the love of two GIANTs.

Monster Sandwiches

Monster Sandwiches

Monster SandwichesI think I have a weakness for making cute food for the kids (and myself.) Much easier to get them to try new things (like green olives) this way too, woo for bonus side effects!

Today is the last day of Caswallon’s first week at his new job, I am looking forward to the long labor day weekend together. Twenty-four more days until I start Fall quarter and Spacefox has his first day of preschool. I am more anxious about the second then the first. StarBear is going to be watched by family until I can get her into the same preschool.

I’ve been thinking about Autumn Equinox, especially now that the mornings are getting chilly enough that I need to grab a shawl. I normally knit the children hats and get them a new book (I’m thinking Mouses First Fall) as gifts but I don’t think SpaceFox needs a new one… I might make them new ones anyways, just to let them have something new and Mommy-made. Since they are really into creative play right now I’m considering getting them each a new Schleich toy, something Autumny, maybe the Chestnut Elf and the Apricum? The equinox is right around the start of school as well so I would be lying if I said I wasn’t considering getting them something extra as a kind of start-to-school present thing.

SpaceFox wants to go apple picking for the Equinox, which we did together every year I was married, but I don’t have a car anymore, so I am not sure how we are going to get out there… I’ll figure out something though because I really want to keep the tradition. StarBear is really into horses right now too, so I want her to see the draft horse at Harvest House that pulls the hayride.

Do you do anything special for the equinox?

When life gives us the flu…

When life gives us the flu…

Herbal Pops… we make herbal popsicles.

In true “woo, Summer break, time to celebrate!” as well as “Caswallon starts his new job tomorrow!” fashion, we have all come down with the flu, and not that fast moving 24 hour variety, but that drawn out, chest congested, sore throat, coughing, questionable bowels, vomitting, runny nose, itchy eyes variety of illness that leaves you wanting to do little more then curl up on the couch and veg in between naps.

I notice that any medicine, Mommy-made or otherwise, is a trick to talk my young ones into being anything but suspicious of. My herbal cough balls need to be spread carefully between two of their favorite crackers and turned into little sandwiches before they can be talked into them (they won’t touch store-bought cough drops.) And soup, well, if I put enough noodles in the broth… Anyhow, fortunately SpaceFox and StarBear are fans of tea (hot and iced) and popsicles, so I have taken to making a batch herbal tea in the morning and using it for both (those molds in the picture are Norpro Silicon Ice Pop molds, I love love love them.)

My herbal teas are mostly made from the herbs I currently have growing or have preserved from my garden. Mint, rosehips, echinacea and local wild flower honey is the base for almost all of them. Today we added fresh blackberries and some a honey lemon ginger cough syrup I keep made up in my fridge.

While I am looking forward to this illness to be over so we can get back to our summer fun (and properly sleep schedules) it is making reminding me appreciate the value of slowing down. We have had lots of quiet time to talk and rest, which really, has been much more needed (at least for myself) then I’ve been willing to admit. I’ve had plenty of time to catch up on my recipe binder, plan for future herbs to add to the garden (mullen, marsh mallow, more echinacea, more blackberries!) and, you know, kill vampires (or join them!) in The Elder Scrolls V: Dawnguard…

How have you been?

Summer Break

Summer Break

SpaceFox and Caswallon

I accidentally let my domain expired the week of finals and it has taken us this long to untangle and get it moved and back up.Bronze Corydoras I am back though! And better still, in summer break! I am off until September 24th, when not only I will be going back to school, but Spacefox will be starting preschool (StarBear is being watched by family while I am in class.) Exciting and nerve wracking, the lot of it.

I have lots to talk about and several entries lined up, but for tonight I’ll just leave it at this, and with a photo of Caswallon and SpaceFox walking home together. Caswallon and StarBear met SpaceFox and I at the bus stop earlier this week. SpaceFox and I went to pick out three new fish for his aquarium, a promise I made to him during Summer quarter. He picked bronze corydoras, a variety of dwarf catfish. They are so cute! (The fish… and the guys walking together!)

How have you all been?